"do not look back in anger or forward in fear, but around in awareness."
james thurber
the therapist
Dr. Tania Abdulezer
Registered Medical Practitioner
UKCP Accredited NLP Psychotherapist
Certified NLP Coach
Certified Reverse Therapist
Medical Advisor for Reverse Therapy UK
I am generally less impressed than others with my professional qualifications but I include them here for the sake of completion. My professional trainings have been invaluable to me as they have given me much to respond to in my life and provided the perfect places for me to discover more of what I know, how I want to work and where I am masterful in what I do. At times, my professional qualifications have enabled me to more confidently offer my services to others and my many teachers have given me useful working models to play with before making my own. However, it is the work with my clients and with myself over the years that has revealed to me the learnings that indeed qualify me to do the work I do.
My study of medicine taught me so much about the nature of health, healing and relating with others - and how important it is to be comfortable at times with not knowing, yet stay present to your experience.
I took the decision to leave medicine at a time when I was working almost exclusively with those patients diagnosed with some form of mental illness. I had become more and more resistant to working within the "medical model" and had been introduced to and started training in the NLP model. This for me was a compelling alternative way of working with some patients who had a greater awareness of their own behaviours and a desire to explore what mental health might look like for them. I invited some of these patients to work with me, using this model, over the period of six months, and the incredible results of our work together (including being discharged as psychiatric patients and off all medication) convinced me to leave and set up on my own. This was ten years ago.
Another personal experience I would like to share with you happened four years ago - I experienced a double spinal disc injury that painfully and relentlessly brought me to my senses (literally) and transformed my relationship with my body. My determination and stubbornness helped, my impatience got in the way and my trust in my intuition ultimately kept me safe. As a result of my recovery process, I have developed my own practices that keep me well and stronger than ever, whilst finding a team of individuals who support me in my learning and in moving forward. For this experience I feel immensely grateful and proud.
My professional and personal trainings in all areas have taught me much about the process of relating with others and my curiosity has ensured that I have kept learning and growing in this area. Admittedly, my relationship with myself continues to be my greatest teacher - and this is reflected perfectly to me in my relationships with others! I know that others come into my life to teach me what I need to learn about myself and for this I am grateful if not always at the time!
I find having a sense of humour really helps when working in the area of relationships and usually my clients discover the same! I believe that good relationships are based on good friendships and necessarily involve a process of on-going negotiation to best meet the needs of both partners. Creating a fulfilling relationship with a partner in life is both challenging and joyful, and in part dependent on our ability to both respect and celebrate our differences.
My relationship successes with both individuals and couples in this area have included clients who have:
- become clear about not wanting to be together and chosen to end their relationship
- transformed their experience of being in their relationships to one of greater joy and ease
- moved from a place of hurt and loneliness to a place of strength and clarity
- celebrated their much improved relationships by going on to get married and / or start a family
My current practices (things I do on a regular basis to keep me healthy) include meditation, floating, pilates, swimming, cycling, reflexology, massage, learning something new, time out with friends and family, time out with myself...
My personal interests include being in the company of those I love (preferably with some great food and wine thrown in!), travel and photography, art and design, film and theatre, music and reading...
I live with my husband and two little children who keep me busy and well entertained!
I am based in South West London (SW8) and work from an office that has a view into Battersea Park which for me is a joy to behold in all seasons, and for my clients extremely therapeutic!
I look forward to meeting you and working with you!
